My one and only daughter – Nabilah Rashida
She was born on 20th June 1990, in Lubbock, Texas, USA. There are some similarities between the first born and the only child personalities. Why? Remember, all first born children were at one time the only child. Suddenly, another sibling has entered this child’s life and s/he must find another way to establish her/his family placement. Common personalities of the first born include perfectionism, reliability, conscientiousness, organized, list makers, critical, serious and goal oriented. As a result of having only adults as role models, first born children tend to be considered more advanced or “little adults.” They can develop into two basic personality types, compliant and pleasing or strong-willed and aggressive. First born children commonly go on in life to be leaders and achievers. It is no surprise that 52 percent of US presidents have been first born children. Clearly, firstborns are natural leaders. They also tend to be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don't like surprises. Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers. They are model children who have a strong need for approval from anyone in charge. That’s my girl.
She was born on 20th June 1990, in Lubbock, Texas, USA. There are some similarities between the first born and the only child personalities. Why? Remember, all first born children were at one time the only child. Suddenly, another sibling has entered this child’s life and s/he must find another way to establish her/his family placement. Common personalities of the first born include perfectionism, reliability, conscientiousness, organized, list makers, critical, serious and goal oriented. As a result of having only adults as role models, first born children tend to be considered more advanced or “little adults.” They can develop into two basic personality types, compliant and pleasing or strong-willed and aggressive. First born children commonly go on in life to be leaders and achievers. It is no surprise that 52 percent of US presidents have been first born children. Clearly, firstborns are natural leaders. They also tend to be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don't like surprises. Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers. They are model children who have a strong need for approval from anyone in charge. That’s my girl.
I, personally, consider my little girl (O.M.G. she has grown up so fast!) has a brain and very intelligent. She wants to be a dentist. She makes us proud… no other words to describe those feelings. I still remember when she was in the 4th Grade and was somehow fling to the ‘C’ class. Wondering why, she comforted me that her teachers mixed n matched everyone so that they can average all the students. Smart, huh? (the answer, I mean). As predicted, for her mid-term exam, she got 1st place with ±70% average. I was damned mad. She was 90% average student ever since 1st Grade!
Her class teacher, didn’t know my capability, said that this is expected for the students of C class. Not satisfied with her answer, I demanded that she switched to the A class immediately. You know how much red-tape that I had to go thru?? Puhh! Meeting with her headmaster was out of the ordinary. He said normally most mothers who came to see him were angry because their daughters/sons didn’t get the 1st place. On the other hand, I was mad because I didn’t care about her placing but more concerned about her percentage. Finally, whilst others gave that ‘looked’ for my request (I didn’t give a damn), she managed to transfer to A Class. I believe in my daughter’s competence. She proofs everyone with her flying colors result in every level of her examination. Although this is too early to predict her success, but, my dear Nabilah, trust in yourself and you can always shine. We, your parents, will always support you all the way up…
My 1st boy, Nurazman
He was born on 24th June, 1995, about exactly 5 years after her sister. He is the most difficult to pin down. He is guaranteed to be opposite of his older sibling, but that difference can manifest in a variety of ways. As a middle child he often feels like his older sister gets all the glory while his younger brother escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings. Talking thru experience, middle children may not feel they have a special place in the family so friends and peer groups become much more important. They can usually read people well. They are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation. They are independent and inventive. If a firstborn is a company's CEO, the middle child is the entrepreneur.
When I look at my second born, I re-called my childhood days. Birth order personalities develop in response to siblings, not parents. Therefore, the second born child will develop traits opposite that of the first born. My older sister and I could not be more different. She is aggressive and I am compliant. She enjoys conflict, I am a peacemaker. Both of these traits I exhibit are common middle child traits. Other characteristics include meekness, secretive and good negotiating skills. I see the same personalities in him.
As second born, Aman has a tendency to feel left out of things at home or in the family. He has a hard time finding his place among his sister and younger brothers. Middle children can show up in a variety of places in the family depending on the number of children. No matter the size of the family, the middle children can develop the same personality traits that become known as the middle child syndrome. These children may feel displaced, lost and angry, and they may look for outside companionship to avoid the hurt feelings as if they don’t belong at home. They often have a strong dependence on outside peer groups.
He is the opposite of his sister in everything including his performance in studies. Although he is very good in mathematic and English but he is very poor in reading subjects especially BM! He doesn’t like to read at all! I do hope that the phrase of boys develop slower than girls is right! He is interested only in soccer and games! O.M.G. What have I done to him? Haven’t I paying enough attention? Aman, as parents, we still have high hope on you. Just be patient and bear with us. We will help you in every way we can to achieve your dream…
My 2nd boy, Muhammad Adlan
Next we have the third born. He was born on 24th March 1999. As a result of many families stopping at three children, the third born is often the baby of the family. Third born children are usually the charmers in the family. They become the class clown and are usually good manipulators. They are also affectionate and uncomplicated.
As the 3rd born, Alan personality is formed in reaction to teasing by his older brother. Since, there is no way to counter the teasing, Alan normally decides to ignore it. In order to be impervious to provocation, Alan has to be strong. And, in order to be strong, he has to turn off fear. To him, fear became an enemy to overcome or it would overcome him.
That way, if you just look at his appearance, you might think that he is very weak and non-challenging. Underneath all of that charm, he can be rebellious, critical, temperamental, spoiled and slightly impatient. The third born uses charm to offset the feelings of inadequacy the second born has so desperately tried to pass on. This is my Alan.
He is as playful as her older brother, but at the same time, he is smart. He plays piano well and most of the time his teachers always impressed with his development. Amazingly, he hopes to be an astronaut and works in Saudi Arabia. Wah, very ambitious! Well, excellent! It is good for you to dream BIG rather than you have no dream at all..
My Alan, whatever you choose in the future, we will be there for you…
Next we have the third born. He was born on 24th March 1999. As a result of many families stopping at three children, the third born is often the baby of the family. Third born children are usually the charmers in the family. They become the class clown and are usually good manipulators. They are also affectionate and uncomplicated.
As the 3rd born, Alan personality is formed in reaction to teasing by his older brother. Since, there is no way to counter the teasing, Alan normally decides to ignore it. In order to be impervious to provocation, Alan has to be strong. And, in order to be strong, he has to turn off fear. To him, fear became an enemy to overcome or it would overcome him.
That way, if you just look at his appearance, you might think that he is very weak and non-challenging. Underneath all of that charm, he can be rebellious, critical, temperamental, spoiled and slightly impatient. The third born uses charm to offset the feelings of inadequacy the second born has so desperately tried to pass on. This is my Alan.
He is as playful as her older brother, but at the same time, he is smart. He plays piano well and most of the time his teachers always impressed with his development. Amazingly, he hopes to be an astronaut and works in Saudi Arabia. Wah, very ambitious! Well, excellent! It is good for you to dream BIG rather than you have no dream at all..
My Alan, whatever you choose in the future, we will be there for you…
My Last Born, Muhammad Danish
My baby was born on 1st October 2002. It is well-known that lastborns are babies of the family that are social and outgoing. They just want to have a good time. Knowing that these kids love the limelight, it's no surprise to discover that Billy Crystal, Goldie Hawn, Drew Carey, Jim Carey, Steve Martin, Jay Leno, Bill Gates, and Danny DeVito are all lastborns.
While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness. As the last born, Danish tends to be the risk taker, idealist, good sense of humor, hardworking, immature, attention seeking, and sensitive. He is the baby of the family, and live up to this role. In the future, it might be difficult for him to find his place in the family, as his BIG sister and brothers have already left huge footprints to follow in, and carved their own niche into the family.
Danish, when you grow older, you might have the tendencies to go against the norm and make the biggest stirs in your life. Please remember that your parents will always love unconditionally and will support you to realize your dream..
